why do they shrug when i tell them my anniversary gift?
.. me and my husband have been married for 4 years , since may 20th 2005 .we were 18 when we got married so we are still a bit young . he is a Soldier and for our past 2 anniversary’s he was either out of state or in Iraq at the time . I am the type of girl that does not need expensive things , my idea of fun is free and simple inner tubing in the river by our house , riding our horse , playing tennis or softball at the park . I never really ask for anything because i rather spend time with him playing putt putt or hiking than for him to send me to a spa where i would sit and be rubbed on by someone i don’t know .. LOL .. anyways when i told my friends what my husband got me for our anniversary they all acted like i should have got more than that , like diamonds or something , i am an outdoor girl and my husband knows what kinds of things I like . For our anniversary we wad a simple dinner out , went swimming , putt putt , and a canoe trip which lasted about all day . when we got home we walked to our back patio where we would always sit on an indoor outdoor rug on the ground and talk . he had a furniture company set up a patio set while we were gone doing all those things . a glass table , 6 chairs and umbrella top . i was thrilled and SO excited . i took pics of it and posted it on my facebook . a few friends acted like they expected me to be mad about it . for my husbands defense i feel like i should say something to them . i don’t want them to think he is cheap or anything . he just knows me well enough to know what makes me happy . what should i say to them .
when i say a few friends said that , i mean a few people i know but never really hung out or anything together . they are usually always rude abour stuff when it involves my husband . they also “wanted ” me to be mad at my husband when he was in Iraq . and tried to say little things hoping to start trouble .. rrghhh . help me put them in there place !!!
Asked by:EMA
Sounds like your friends need to get to know you as well as your husband does.
It looks like you have a good husband, and he knows what you like.
It looks like your friends aren’t good people, and only like material gifts.
Everybody is different. I think that it is nice the things that you choose to do. Some people think that you always have to get big, expensive things on birthdays and ann. And those are the people who usually end up alone because they are materialistic. Some people are also the jealous type. Your hubby seems like a really good person, he takes time to do things. Material things can be taken from us at any moment,but you will always have the wonderful memories.
You have two good friends:
1. Your husband.
2. Your horse.
Your gift is nice, the people who criticized it, and your husband are asses, period. All this posting of pictures and getting chummy with complete strangers on the Internet really is a bunch of crap and lots of people get hurt it seems. If you want to use these sites for fun, that is fine, I do too, but to get your feelings hurt over some of these idiots (even me included as I insult sometimes), is just right over the top and really, really stupid.
Be happy you have a nice husband, and that you like doing those things together. My sister and her husband were that way, and they lasted for fifty years, as a couple, liking the same things, and doing the same sort of things that you and your husband are doing. Congratulations.
If that is what you like, then that is a wonderful gift.
I also got married young. I married my hubby November 18, 2006 and I was barely 19. He’s also a soldier. Spending time with my husband, even sitting on the couch watching a movie is gift enough for me.